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Last call for the workshop on shame and related emotions that Suzanne
Retzinger and I will be giving in Santa Barbara, California July 17-19,
1998. If you wish, I can send you a brochure.
Tom
Thomas J. Scheff, Professor Emeritus
Dept of Sociology, UCSB, Santa Barbara, CA. 93105
Phone 805 893 3510 Fax 805 893 3324
Web http://sscf.ucsb.edu/~scheff/scheff.html
WORKSHOP ON SHAME AND RELATED EMOTIONS
Suzanne M. Retzinger and Thomas J. Scheff=09
Santa Barbara, CA, USA - July 17-19, 1998
We consider shame to be the master emotion, and yet little explored and
discussed. If mentioned at all in discussions of emotion, shame is not
prominent. Yet it has many more functions in the internal and social
systems of human life than any other emotion. We emphasize two components=
:
it regulates (and often suppresses) the expression of other emotions,
particularly grief, anger, fear, and shame itself, and it serves as the k=
ey
signal of the state of the bond in all social relationships. (We can tell
where we stand with others by their words and manner, however subtle). We
will show how to detect these processes using verbal and nonverbal cues t=
o
shame and anger.
The relation between emotions and the social bond, particularly,
offers a powerful tool for managing and understanding clinical and
interview sessions. For these and other reasons, knowledge of shame is
important for mediators, psychotherapists, group facilitators and other
practitioners, as well as researchers interested in fundamentals of human
behavior. Even small increases of knowledge about shame will bring
immediate payoffs in the effectiveness of our work, because it so pervade=
s
virtually all human contact, yet is virtually invisible without tutoring.
This workshop is organized to be useful to both the newcomer to shame and
the veteran.
Shame is usually disguised, hidden from view and therefore ignored in mo=
st
sectors in modern societies. In those few sectors where shame is routinel=
y
explored, as in AA meetings, there appears to be many problems of theory
and procedure that go undiscussed. This workshop takes the lid off of
shame and its relationship to other emotions, thought and behavior, by
exploring its=20
psychological, social and practical dimensions.=20
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After a brief introduction to the basic ideas involving shame, the first
session will emphasize dialogue contributed by the participants from thei=
r
own lives. This hands-on approach to hidden shame in one=92s own life res=
ults
in much more rapid learning about shame in general. Of course we will not
insist on personal disclosure, in the hope that enough participants will
volunteer on their own. Please feel free to discuss this matter with us
beforehand, by phone or email, should you have any questions about it.
The 3-day workshop will be held in La Casa, a beautiful and=20
spacious retreat nestled in an elegant part of Montecito, a suburb of San=
ta
Barbara, July 17-20, Friday through Sunday. Each day will be devoted to =
a
particular theme, with theory stressed in the morning session, and
applications in the afternoon, or, on the first day, in the evening
session. Meals and accommodations are at this site.
1. Introduction: Understanding shame. The pervasiveness of unidentified
shame in our lives, and its social and psychological functions. The
relationship between shame and guilt, anger, embarrassment, pride, and
love. The concept of the social bond, and its intimate relationship to
shame. By social bond, we understand the degree of connectedness, or
attunement, between persons.=20
2. Identifying unacknowledged shame: observable CUES to inner states. Slo=
w-
and stop- motion use of videotapes of marital quarrels will be used to sh=
ow
how hidden shame can be detected and understood, using the Retzinger
identification system. In the afternoon and subsequent sessions,
participants will be asked to contribute dialogue involving quarrels,
impasses and other incidents from their own lives and from the subjects o=
r
clients with whom they work. Please bring video-, audiotaped, printed or
remembered dialogue that can be volunteered for discussion or role-play.
3. Identifying shame in interviews, psychotherapy, community conferences,
and written material. Shame in individual and group life, with particula=
r
reference to gender, race, class, and ethnic relationships.=20
The workshop will consist of a brief introduction, and 4
three-hour sessions, and a two-hour closing session. The experience shoul=
d
be very intense, since it will involve both our personal and professional
lives.=20
Registration will begin at 2pm, La Casa, 800 El Bosque Road,=20
Montecito, Ca. The first session will begin at 3 pm. The last=20
session will end at 4 pm, Sunday, July 19. There will be a wine and chees=
e
social at our home, following the end of the workshop.
Texts:
Suzanne Retzinger:
'Violent Emotions: Shame and Rage in Marital Quarrels'. Newbury Park, CA:
Sage Publications
'Identifying Shame and Anger in Discourse'.=20
American Behavioral Scientist. 38, #8, 1104-1113.
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